Thursday, December 26, 2013

HOW TO GROW UP-DIVORCING PARENTS

Divorce is a terrible thing. It doesn't just affect the husband, wife and children going through the divorce; it also affects extended relatives and friends of the family.

In the Book of Exodus in the Bible, God's sixth commandment is "thou shalt not commit adultery." (See Exodus Chapter 20.)

Jesus told His followers that anyone who divorces commits adultery. If your parents are going through a divorce or your family has gone through a divorce, I can't speak to your specific situation. However, I can say in general that divorce is wrong.

The Bible says God has a much better way of looking at things than humans, "as the heavens are higher than the earth." God's solution for a couple going through a divorce is for them to remember that He instituted marriage in the first place. A married couple having problems should work out solutions to their problems according to His law and ways.

To prevent divorce from coming up in the first place, people should think long and hard before they get married. Things they should think about should include among other questions whether the person will truly be a good husband or wife, whether they will be a good father or mother and how do they treat the person who is planning to marry them.

2 comments:

Jerry E Beuterbaugh said...

Alas, I know of a husband and wife who spent the majority of their 50 years in marriage living in separate houses next to one another because of not being able to stand being in the other's presence for longer than a few hours at a time. So, they did indeed stayed married until death did they part, but what kind of a marriage did they really have?

By the way, I found out about an unwritten rule that is widely observed by Southern Baptists after our Heavenly Father started making Himself real to me. The unwritten rule is that a divorced man can never pastor a church. Ironically, I could have returned to that ministry if I had of murdered my three ex-wives instead of just being divorced from them. For murder can be forgiven, but there is evidently no forgiveness for a divorce to be found in their hearts.

Alex Horton said...

Regarding that couple who stayed separated for fifty years, that goes back to thinking long and hard before getting married.

Regarding the other point you brought up, I have a good joke about Baptists I will tell you when we next speak on the phone.