WOMAN STORMS OUT OF BRIDAL SALON AFTER FINDING OUT HER FRIENDS HAD BEEN MAKING FUN OF HER IN A GROUP CHAT

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Woman Storms Out of Bridal Salon After Finding Out Her Friends Had Been Making Fun of Her in a Group Chat

The 23-year-old woman discovered that her two college roommates had been ripping her outfits and social media posts "to shreds" in messages

By Virginia Chamlee  Published on May 21, 2024 04:50PM EDT

 

A woman is garnering support online after sharing that she left her college roommate's wedding dress try-on after learning that the bride-to-be and another friend had been bad-mouthing her in a group chat.

 

In an anonymous post shared to Reddit, the 23-year-old woman shares that she and two others — whom she calls Gaby and Shelly — were college roommates and stayed in the same city following their graduation. Now that Shelly is getting married, the anonymous poster and Gaby are both involved — the poster as a bridesmaid and Gaby as the Maid of Honor.

 

"Over the weekend, I went with Shelly so she could look at wedding dresses," the woman writes in her Reddit post. "Gaby was supposed to come with us but got called into work last minute. I helped Shelly pick out some dresses then she went with the consultant to try them on."

 

While Shelly was occupied in the dressing room, she asked the poster to "take pictures and videos on her phone to send to her mom and Gaby."

 

"I was getting the camera ready when a text from Gaby came through," she continues. "I didn’t mean to click on it and was instantly going to click back out when I saw one of my Instagram pictures in their private chat from earlier that morning. Both were making fun of me for the face I was making and my outfit choice. It didn’t appear to be very good nature."

 

With her curiosity piqued, the poster then searched her name in the chat, and came upon "multiple pictures that I, my boyfriend or my mom have posted of myself, absolutely ripping them to shreds. Ranging from selfies to posed shots to even a few baby pictures."

 

In the messages, Gaby and Shelly would ridicule the poster "in terms of the way I talked, wore my hair and the way I ate. This went back as far as I could tell, at least a year."

 

"My heart broke. It all felt so juvenile and high school. While we all joke around, I would never do this to them nor have they ever even tried to instigate these types of conversations with me about the other one on one," the woman writes.

 

The messages were especially hurtful, she adds, as she had been bullied throughout middle and high school.

 

"I was in tears ... I put the phone in Shelly’s purse and brought it to another employee, telling her to tell Shelly that I had to go. I drove home and had a long cry," she adds in the post.

 

Later that day, the poster writes that she spoke to Shelly, and "told her what I found, explaining that I only looked further because of the initial text I accidentally saw."

 

But rather than apologize, Shelly grew angry, the poster writes.

 

"She went off on me for looking through her private texts and said those were none of my business. She also told me I shouldn’t have left the store without saying anything," she writes. "I said I didn’t want to make a scene but also knew I couldn’t fake being happy for her."

 

"Shelly told me the texts were 'all in good fun' and clearly she loves me because I’m going to be her bridesmaid. She added that I’m only hurt because I chose to read all those texts," the poster continues. "Later on, Gaby called to tell me that I invaded Shelly’s privacy and hurt her by walking out."

 

The woman ends her post with a question to fellow Reddit users: was she in the wrong to look through the texts and then leave?

 

Overwhelmingly, commenters said no, with many adding that both Shelly and Gaby owe her an apology — and that she would be wise to remove herself from the wedding party.

 

"If I was in your place, I think I'd drop out of being in the wedding," one Reddit user wrote. "It's one thing to jokingly make fun of someone one time but seems like they have done this to you a bunch of times. And it doesn't seem like it was light-hearted."

 

Another offered an even more blunt take, writing, "I think I'd drop out of their lives altogether." 

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