NEWLY ENGAGED WOMAN SAYS YOUNGER SISTER GOT UPSET BECAUSE FIANCEE DIDN'T ASK SISTER'S PERMISSION

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Newly Engaged Woman Says Younger Sister 'Lost It' After Learning Her Fiancé Proposed Without Asking for 'Permission'

By Nicki Cox  Published on December 14, 2025 06:00AM EST

 

Engagements are supposed to be a time of celebration, but for one woman, the happy news was spoiled after her sister "flipped out" about her proposal.

 

On Reddit, the soon-to-be bride explained that her partner recently popped the question, but her younger sister was unhappy about how things unfolded.

 

In the post, she said that her sister "absolutely LOST IT because my fiancé didn’t ask for 'permission from the family.' Not my parents — her."

 

"She said it 'robbed her of a big emotional moment.' She’s now telling everyone the engagement feels 'tainted' and keeps DMing me TikToks about 'sibling respect,'" she wrote. "I didn’t realize my marriage was supposed to be run like a monarchy."

 

In the comments, she added that her 29-year-old sister has also been sending "long voice notes about how ‘tradition was violated.' "

 

As a 32-year-old woman, the poster noted that she is "not a contestant on a reality TV show," and that her sister seemingly has a warped perception of how most proposals actually go down.

 

In the comments, users questioned why the sister thought she should have been asked in the first place, noting that, if anything, a groom typically asks the bride's parents for permission, not the siblings.

 

"There is no tradition anywhere of asking a sibling's permission, let alone a younger sister. How ridiculous," one person wrote.

 

"Wait- is there some weird tradition that the whole family needs to be asked?" another person added. "Not that it’s unusual for the father to be asked in some cultures, but I’ve never heard of a sister being asked. What if there are a few siblings, is it a majority vote, or one can squash the whole marriage deal with a no vote?"

 

"Send your little sister long messages and til toks about respecting her elders," they added.

 

A third person chimed in, "You will have to prepare yourself for this one....she's totally showing up in white to your wedding and will expect to name your future child."